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Top 7 Reasons People Give Up Learning Meditation
By Erika Eineigel
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The most important part about learning meditation is sticking to it. If you've tried different meditation methods, you know that's easier said than done.
Even though you might understand that being on an endless "mental treadmill" can be toxic to your well-being, and even though you might feel calmer after meditating, you're just not regularly meditating. Why not?
Here are the top reasons. See which one fits your excuse:
- Frustration: Some people think they can't meditate.
The more frustrated you get with yourself when you first start learning
meditation, the less likely you'll continue with it. Self-criticism,
anxiety, and doubt are sure-fire ways of defeating your own commitments.
Don't let that happen.
You need to remind yourself when you first start out that progress may be
slow. You might sit for a full 10 or 15 minutes ... but only get into a
meditative state for a few minutes of that time. That's not uncommon.
Don't give up.
Like anything else, you just need to stick with it. Eventually you'll be
able to enter and sustain a meditative zone like any other regular
- Results-Driven Fallacies: Some people get frustrated when they don't see
In our day-to-day world, it's easy to start measuring everything by their
immediate results. That's one of the reasons there's always a maddening
happening around us. After all, if you can't see results, why continue
Don't fall into this trap. For some people, establishing a regular
meditation practice can take time. In fact, those who take longer to get
into an easy meditation flow may even find meditation more beneficial than
others. With more to work with, the results of meditation can be dramatic.
Just because you don't see results right away, doesn't mean nothing is
happening. Have faith in the outcome ... and it will come.
- Confusion: Some confuse meditation with something else.
Attaching meditation to something else like yoga is a great idea. Many
instructors incorporate some form of meditation into a class. It's a
common way for people to get introduced to meditation methods. But make
you don't start to confuse the two as the same thing. Even though you
give up yoga for a little while, that's no reason to stop meditating.
Make sure you're clear about your own expectations don't think you need to
practice yoga in order to meditate. After all, meditating just requires a
quiet place to sit. No getting to a class, wearing special clothing, or
specific time commitments required. Just sit.
- Invincibility: Sometimes getting over a rough period in your life falsely
translates to you being home free.
If you've used meditation methods to make it through a rough patch in your
life, it's easy to think that once you're in a better place you don't need
meditate anymore. That's not a good approach to your life. As we all
life is full of ups and downs. Just because you're on the upswing doesn't
mean you can't improve the ride. Don't forget about how you got to that
place. That way, you'll be able to stay on top of things easier ... and
appreciate your good fortune even more.
- Depression: Sometimes getting into a rough period in life leaves people
feeling discouraged and hopeless about meditating.
On the flip side, some people might be so down they don't think meditation
will help. What good will it do? Just sitting and doing nothing isn't
to solve anything, they might reason. This type of thinking needs to stop.
Force yourself to sit for 10-15 minutes at first. Even if a period of easy
meditation doesn't come, make sure you just sit daily for a few weeks at
least. Then make your decision about continuing or not. Although sitting
may be difficult to do when you're feeling hopeless, you need to trust the
process. You'll be glad you did.
- Social Meditators: Over-reliance on group meditation methods.
Some people only meditate in a class or group environment. When the class
stops, or the group stops meeting, they stop meditating. If this sounds
familiar, you need to understand what meditation does for you. You don't
need to rely on anyone or anything other than yourself. It's that simple.
- Worried about the Outcome.
This is an interesting one. Some people don't want to start meditating or
try to change any of their thought patterns because they worry it will take
them even further astray from where they are. It's almost like a
superstitious belief: If I meditate, I won't care about my job anymore, or
making money, or pleasing my family or friends, or anything that matters to
me right now and then I'll end up being someone I don't want to be.
The irony of thinking like this is that you're giving meditation lots of
power ... just not to yourself. Meditation is all about giving yourself
personal power to see yourself more clearly and to succeed in what you want
It doesn't make you invincible. But it does help you succeed in your
That's not to say that meditation won't affect any of your goals along the
way. But you'll always be in the driver's seat. Your life is yours to
When learning meditation, meditation methods can be useful. Tools like
breathing exercises, sounds, scents, visual cues, movement, location and
specific diets including various herbal supplements can all help.
In fact, the use of medicinal herbs for meditation has been recommended for
over 2000 years in the ancient yogic text the Yoga Sutras. Modern studies
have also shown that certain kinds of botanicals help to focus and calm the
mind. If you're interested in this kind of meditation tool, please visit Mana Mind and Body [http://manamindbody.com/why-herbalmana] for more information.
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Article Submitted On: February 25, 2010