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Top 7 Questions To Ask To Find Purpose In Your Life

By Deborah Brown

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Do you know what your purpose in life is? Do you want to find out?

Most people are guided by that mysterious thing in our lives called "purpose." If things are going well, it's because it's supposed to be that way. If things are not going well, it's because it's a lesson we are supposed to learn, one that will get us closer to our purpose someday. We all want a purpose, yet it seems like this all-important unobtainable thing. Yet, how can we find it?

First, accept that it may be time to find your purpose in life. It may take trial and error before you get it right. Mistakes are a great way to uncover your purpose because you have the opportunity to find out what you like and don't like. After many "don't likes" and "why do I keep doing the same things over an over again" comes a time of personal freedom and peace. Once you get what's not working out of the way, you can make room for the good stuff.

Second, believe that you will know when you find it. How will you know? You will feel it in the pit of your stomach. It's something that feels so right that you can't imagine doing anything else. And, you will feel "high" when you're doing it. This "high" feeling may feel a bit strange, and it may even frighten you. Don't be afraid, it's your higher power talking to you, letting you know that you are doing the right thing.

Lastly, you know you've found your purpose in life when it doesn't revolve around you. It's not the bigger house or the shiny new car that will make you happy. These are just goals, but they are not a substitute for your purpose in life. Your purpose in life will bring you happiness and true happiness comes from contributing to other people's lives and making a difference for someone else. We were put on this earth to help others, and that is the greatest gift of all!

So, how do you create your purpose? Follow these easy steps:

  1. Ask Yourself "Who Am I?"

    What kind of person are you? What's been true of you since you were younger? Write down all the attributes that you can think of that are truly you. List the things you naturally have learned and developed over the years. You probably take these things for granted, not recognizing them for the special, significant and unique gifts they actually are.

  2. Ask Yourself "What Do I Love To Do?"

    What do you absolutely, truly enjoy doing in your professional life? In your personal life? For each answer, consider the gifts that have helped make them possible. Your purpose will involve doing something that you love.

  3. Ask Yourself "What Experiences In Life Were Really Fulfilling For Me?"

    Look for the times in your life that were fulfilling for you. These were times when you were just being yourself. Consider, What was it like for me while I was going through it? What was I feeling? What was important, special or meaningful for me? These answers hold the key to what you should be doing with your life.

  4. Ask Yourself "What Is My Purpose In Life?"

    Once your purpose becomes clearer, create a purpose statement. A purpose statement contains an action, a focus, and an intended impact. Once you write it down, you have a road map to follow.

  5. Ask Yourself "What Am I Afraid Of?"

    Once you know what your purpose in life is, what will keep you from living it? Fear is the number one thing that stops people from being who they were meant to be. Do you want to be fulfilled? Then feel the fear, and do it anyway.

  6. Ask Yourself "Who Can I Tell?"

    Speaking your purpose will bring it into reality; and once you tell people, it becomes real. Plus, you'll have the support of those around you who want to encourage you to be who you really are.

  7. Ask Yourself "How Do I Put My Purpose In Place?"

    Your life is moving forward whether you are working towards your purpose or not. So, wouldn't it be better to take one action each day that will get you closer to who you were meant to be? It could be as simple as making a phone call, sending an email, or doing some research on the Internet. Your purpose will be realized one step at a time until one day you find that you are living it.

    And what if you've done all this work and it hasn't come to you yet? It will. We were all put here for a reason. And, if you are determined to find your purpose, it will come your way. When something that strong is in your heart, it's only a matter of time before you discover what it is. The answer is out there; it's just a matter of finding the right question.

Deborah Brown is a noted personal coach and motivational speaker that supports people in removing obstacles so they can reach their goals and surpass their dreams. In 90 days, Deborah has helped clients locate careers they love, find intimate relationships, and have their needs met by family, friends, and co-workers just by asking. Having a life you love starts when you believe you can. Deborah helps you believe that you can. To Learn More Visit: http://www.surpassyourdreams.com, send an email to or call (212) 586-0787 today!

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Article Submitted On: November 10, 2000