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Top 7 Tips on How to Turn Around A Sinking Conversation

By Peter Murphy

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When a conversation is not working out there is the potential for massive frustration or a breakthrough depending on how you look at it.

  1. Question your assumptions about the other person

    Perhaps the breakdown in communication is based on rumors that
    have no basis in reality. You may be unfairly judging the other
    person and filtering every word he speaks because of a false
    image of who he really is.

    Have you ever harshly judged someone and found out later you
    were completely in the wrong? Make sure you are not making the
    same mistake again.

  2. Ask for clarification

    Ask the other person to fill in the gaps that are causing you to
    lose your grasp on the train of thought.

    Asking questions demonstrates your interest in a positive outcome
    and is to be encouraged. Never worry about looking stupid for
    asking for more information. The smartest people value information
    and are always ready to ask for more.

  3. Are you really listening?

    Check that you are really paying attention and not just
    pretending to be. Change your posture, pay close attention to how
    the other person is talking and demand more of yourself.

    Become more attentive simply by choosing to be.

  4. Address the issue directly

    Be direct and say aloud that you feel the conversation is not
    working out. Often the other person will agree and together the
    two of you will be able to work to correct the situation.

    Two minds are better than one!

  5. Ask for help

    If you often have trouble conversing with a particular person get
    advice from someone that knows the other person. Very often by
    doing this you will get new insights you can act on right away.

    And someone who is removed from the situation will have the
    objectivity you need to make sense of the chaos you have created.

  6. Ask for help

    If you often have trouble conversing with a particular person get
    advice from someone that knows the other person. Very often by
    doing this you will get new insights you can act on right away.

    And someone who is removed from the situation will have the
    objectivity you need to make sense of the chaos you have created.

  7. Aim for good not perfect

    Sometimes we hold such high standards for ourselves that we can
    never win. If you demand 100 per cent success at all times you are
    setting yourself up for constant disappointment. Do your best and
    aim to learn and improve from every experience.

    Be kinder to yourself and you will be more relaxed in all of your
    dealings with other people. And ironically your performance will
    improve because you are not being so hard on yourself.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to
Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because
it is available for a limited time only at:
http://www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm

Source: http://Top7Business.com/?expert=Peter_Murphy

Article Submitted On: November 05, 2004