Top 7 Tips for Saying "No!" the Nice Way
By Stephanie L. H. Calahan
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In today's fast-paced, activity rich society we are all juggling a lot of responsibilities. You believe that you are handing all of the items well and nothing is falling yet, then it happens: you are asked to take on one more thing. Contrary to popular perception, it is OK to say "No." In fact, sometimes you can be doing a favor by saying no.
Below are tips for how to say "No" the nice way:
- I Have Another Commitment -
And it doesn't matter what that commitment is. It could be a meeting or a dentist appointment or a day in the park with your kid. The point is, you aren't available.
- I'm Really Not the Most Qualified for the Job -
If you don't feel that you have adequate skills to take on a task, that's okay. It's better to admit your limitations up front than feel overwhelmed down the road.
- I Can't, But Let Me Refer You to Someone Who Can -
If you aren't available to help out, offer another qualified resource. Professionals do this all the time when they refer a client to a colleague.
- I Would Rather Decline than Do a Mediocre Job -
Knowing that you aren't able to deliver a quality product -- for whatever reason -- is reason enough for turning a request down.
- I'm Really Focusing More on My... -
If you need to give more attention to another area of your life, say so. People act ashamed of wanting to spend time with their families -- like it means they don't have goals. Having a strong family is a goal in and of itself! The reverse is true also -- you may have to give up some civic or community duties to focus your energies on a work-related task (and that's fine, too!)
- I Really Don't Enjoy That Kind of Work -
Who said you were supposed to enjoy your chores and assignments?! Well, if you don't enjoy them, why do them? Life isn't about drudgery and boredom.
- I've Learned That This Really Isn't My Strong Suit -
Another way of admitting your limitations. Did you know that actually makes you stronger? Knowing what you can handle and what you can't is a tremendous talent!
Stephanie L. H. Calahan is the president and founder of Calahan Solutions, Inc. (http://www.calahansolutions.com) - a premier professional organizing and consulting firm, serving a national and local clientele in corporate settings, home-based businesses, and residential environments.
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Article Submitted On: December 17, 2005