Are you struggling to slim down and you just can’t figure out what in the world isn’t working? Perhaps your self-talk is just the thing you need to get a hold of for once and for all!
If you are yearning to lose weight, then you need to get your self-talk under control for once and for all, so you can see faster results. The words you use to describe what is happening to you, what is occurring with your body, and how you feel about your body, will trigger the emotions of happiness or unhappiness that you experience.
Since the quality of your life and your weight is determined by how you feel moment to moment, you should make it a habit to only think and talk about what you want, what you are moving towards, and what you are grateful for, and keep your mind off of what you don’t want, what you don’t like or what you wish you had.
Much of your ability to succeed as a naturally thin individual, comes from the way you deal with life circumstances, and how you talk and work with your body, vs. against it. Having “a constructive and positive response to adversity” when you are confronted with a setback or adversity will help you gain a positive character and personality.
One common characteristic of men and women who successfully transform their bodies, is that they recognize that setbacks are temporary, and accept these setbacks as a normal and natural part of their life, and find that when setbacks come up, they must rise above them to move forward towards their slim-goals.
Here are a few wonderful ways to go from negative self-talk, to powerful body-shifting self talk...
- Notice Your Patterns.
The first step towards changing your self-talk around your body is to become more aware of how often you say negative things in your head. The following strategies can help you become more conscious of your internal dialogue and its content.
•Journal Writing: Carry a journal around and jot down negative comments when you think of them. You will find patterns to your thoughts.
•Figure out what you say about your body. Get honest with yourself and write down a paragraph of how you feel about your body. After you write this paragraph, take an honest look at it and see where you could be more positive. What new words would you use?
•Say “STOP”: As you notice yourself saying something negative in your mind around your body, stop your thought mid-stream my saying to yourself or out loud “Stop”.
•Rubber-Band Snap: Stop your negative self-talk in it’s tracks by snapping your wrist with a rubber band every time you notice negative self-talk. When you pull the band away from your skin and snap it back, it will give you a physical painful reminder (not too painful) to knock it off and start saying something more positive.
- Talk About Your Body in Constructive Ways.
Let’s say that you really feel as though you’ve been doing fabulously well with eating and living thin! Since you are doing so well, you decide that you want to see the results on the scale. When you step on the scale you see that you’ve actually gained a pound! Your mind could go one of two ways: (1) You could throw up your hands and say, “I’m so pathetic.” “I hate my body”, “this sucks and I am tired of working so darn hard to see absolutely no results.” Or (2) You could say, “This is disappointing, because I know how hard I’ve been working. I know that the scale is not showing the full picture here. I know that I’m continuing to do really wonderful things for my body and I feel great making these changes living Thin From Within. Keep it up!!! I know at some point the scale will match the success I’m seeing.
- Notice Your Natural Tendencies.
We all have areas of our lives where we react beautifully and other areas where we react destructively. If you made a list of these destructive areas, you would see that these are the exact areas in your life that are not working. There is a natural tendency in all of us to react emotionally when our expectations and frustrations are not met. When weight loss results that we desperately want and hope for do not materialize as quickly as we desire, you may feel an instant urge you to react by binging, overeating, or eating unconsciously. It’s like, “Who cares? I do all this and I’m not getting the results I desire, so forget it, and let’s eat.” But what if, in just a few days the scale does show something different, or what if in just a few more days, your pants begin to loosen around your belly? Wouldn’t it be a waste to self-sabotage yourself at that moment when in just a few more days you could see results?
Notice what natural tendencies and expectations you have to lose weight? Are they serving you?
- Hold On To Your Desired Results.
If you could hold on to your desired end results and work daily to move your self talk and your actions toward this goal, you will see results! What if every time you wanted to react to life stresses by eating you found an alternative action like: singing, dancing, knitting, painting, searching the web, or journaling? Do you realize that you would slim down and be a different person? You would stop that self-talk in it’s tracks and you would be moving toward your desired way of being. How wonderful! You would immediately see your life change, your body change, all because you are holding on to your desired results and changing your self-talk.
- You Can Only Hold One Thought at a Time.
Since your mind can hold only one thought at a time, either positive or negative, you must deliberately get in the habit of choosing the positive thought to dwell on. If you keep your mind optimistic and your emotions positive, you will see your feelings and actions transforming right before your eyes.
- Start your day off right.
Start your day in front of a mirror saying affirmations, such as “I like myself,” “I am the best” and “I love transforming my body.” These are personal and positive affirmations that will build your levels of self confidence and self-esteem. You should say these affirmations out loud in front of a mirror at least 50 times a day. I know it sounds like a lot, but let me tell you, it’s nothing compared to the 1000’s of destructive thoughts you’ve been giving your brain day-in and day-out. By doing this, you will begin to drive these new positive thoughts deep into your subconscious.
At first you may feel goofy standing in front of the mirror doing it, because you are not used to saying such kind words and/or phrases over and over again about yourself and your body. It takes time to reprogram your mind with these new positive affirmations, but it is worth it!
- Adversity is Part of Life.
Remember, it is impossible to learn, grow and become successful without adversity and difficulties. You must rise above them in order to become a happier and thinner person. Always, keep your thoughts on your goals. Consistently think about the person you want and are becoming. When things go wrong temporarily, respond by saying to yourself, “I believe in the perfect outcome in every situation in my life.” Resolve to be cheerful and pleasant about your body and resist every temptation to respond to your body negatively. And finally, view disappointment as an opportunity to grow stronger, and talk to yourself and others about it in a positive and optimistic way.
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